Teen advice on dating older guys
Women get stick for being the obsessive, crazy sex, but in my experience, it’s the opposite. ‘Younger guys aren’t as forceful or bothered.’ On top of this, the older guys had no chat. My penchant for the younger lad also probably has a lot to do with the fact I’m pretty immature for my age – I was a very late developer so always feel like I’m a good few years behind everyone else.
Why have we let our gender be tarnished with this lie for so long? When some girls were having sex, I hadn’t even started my period.
The first guy I properly dated was exactly a year younger than me (we shared the same birthday, I thought it was meant to be) and the last guy I dated was four years younger than me. ) and thought I’d increase my age limit to 39 to see if there were any silver foxes about. You could smell the desperation through the phone – it was like they had their mum breathing down their necks asking for grandkids.
I recently found out that a musician I have a crush on is 21. However, women dating younger men isn’t weird to me – my dad is younger than my mum, my uncle is way younger than my aunty and my brother is younger than his wife. Me and my best friends have a running joke that we always fancy hot, younger guys (We’ll always have a thing for fresh-faced indie boys, God love ’em). (I’ve always had a thing for Patrick Dempsey.) Holy. ‘I’ve dated older guys who have gone in way too hard way too soon with talking about getting married,’ agrees Katherine, 25. It didn’t take long before I moved my maximum age back down to 34.
If they were good, she was happy, going to class, doing good.
If he was ignoring her, she was depressed, missing class, consumed with anxiety.
School and friends may start seeming childish in comparison to her boyfriend’s problems.
Doing so may just push your daughter further into his arms.
Try to talk to your daughter, express your concerns.
Let her know that you only have her best interests at heart.
Most of the teenage girls I work with who are dating older men are seeking something they feel like they aren’t getting from home, and while it may seem impossible to please your ever changing and complex teenager, try to talk with her, listen to and understand her.
Otherwise, she will search for and find someone or something else to attach herself too.
I told her that had to say something about his motives, personality, etc., but of course she didn’t see this as a red flag, but was instead flattered that someone who could date anyone his age or older, chose to date her.