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Here are some things I heard from my ex’s: “Why do you have so many male friends? But the same guys would get angry when their own girlfriends tried to drink more than one can of beer.” “Do you really have to go to all those social gatherings? They wanted to date a girl who was smart and independent enough to handle her own life, but also dependent enough to respect when faced with difficulties.I am full of contradictory desires, wanting to be my own self, whatever that may be, but also wanting to meet South Korean society’s standards on what a proper woman should be.All the people I have met at school, at workplaces, even at home have influenced me.I see myself as a lively, bright and sociable girl.
I am self-conscious of my independence and womanhood.It’s an old battle: fighting against the chasm, between the expectations of South Korean men (and even women who embrace these expectations) and the real, live selves of South Korean women.As a young woman, I kept wondering about how I should act, and how much of myself I should show men.(They might say making chocolate is a woman’s hobby and men never do .) But I must thank the South Korean men I have dated — even those who have been so critical of me — for leading me down this path of self-discovery.And I look forward to meeting the next man who will help me learn more about who I truly am.
It dawns on me that my battle isn’t just about fighting South Korean men’s expectations of how women ought to behave.