From courting to dating
Colossians 3:5 Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.
1 Thessalonians 4:3 It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; Jude 1:7 In a similar way, Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding towns gave themselves up to sexual immorality and perversion. Don Francisco sang a song that said "love is not a feeling, it's an act of the will" and that is true.
You go looking for what your limited human understanding and flesh wants and thinks will make you happy. He knows what you will be like one, five, ten, twenty years from now.
You do not, and He knows His plan and what will make you truly happy.
5 For He foreordained us (destined us, planned in love for us) to be adopted (revealed) as His own children through Jesus Christ, in accordance with the purpose of His will [because it pleased Him and was His kind intent]- God created you and He knows your wants, desires and needs.
He knows what is best for you no matter what you think is best for you. My definition of what dating is today is "experimenting," and experiments of this nature can easily get out of control.
Point being for as long as you are left on earth your purpose is to reconcile the world to Christ and you do that His way by following His will. If it is a man and they have read the Word they usually quote 1st Corinthians emphasizing the "seek not a wife" part with a pained look on there face.If anyone can find anywhere in the Word of God that dating as we understand it today is scriptural I would like to see it. That does not mean you can't meet and get to know members of the opposite sex.Relationships, jobs, schooling, He knows the full plan, not you.His will is that His sons and daughters meet and form Godly relationships and Godly marriages. Most people find a spouse by playing a selfish form of spin the bottle and the result is broken relationships with all the hurt and pain, and that goes for the married and unmarried.
But for you men the Word is clear that you treat women with respect and as sisters. You don't decide you like her and drive off to Lookout Point even if she wants to. You don't want the girl that is willing to break her vow before God and you are doing the same.