Dating long distance and first visit
Don’t bare all too soon (literally or figuratively)!When you meet long distance it can be easy to jump in the deep end and move too fast in your new relationship.During the early days (the first couple of months, at least) don’t rush into vulnerability, set a pattern of talking for hours every day, or make serious commitments.There are all sorts of things you can only learn about someone face to face, but the initial reason why it’s a good idea to meet in person ASAP is simple: You may have great chemistry on paper or over the phone, and absolutely none in person. Discuss some of your communication basics as a couple–how you generally prefer to connect (phone, Vo IP, text), what times, and for how long.The biggest benefit of being in a LDR is that it forces you to communicate.
Communication is the bedrock of any relationship, but when you’re in a long distance relationship, talking is often all you have.This can help set realistic expectations and avoid some miscommunications, frustration, and anxiety.It can take real effort to rearrange schedules and make time to talk, especially when things get busy or there is a time difference involved.Long distance relationships often involve intense emotions and extreme ups and downs.There are times of intense loneliness, uncertainty, doubts, and fear.
Writing gives you more time and space to reflect on tricky issues, and letters and emails can become treasured keepsakes (or maybe even a book) in the future.